As a recap, Eight Dates is a date guide about 8 different beneficial conversations that help couples to connect and gain a better understanding of one another. Over the next couple of months, I will be completing overviews of each date conversation. If you finding this resonating with you, I highly suggest purchasing the book here and completing each of the date conversations with your significant other.
If you have been following along each week, week 3 does not have corresponding worksheets that go with it. This week we are on to date number three: SEX. It is very important to bring an open mind to this conversation. The best time to have this conversation is NOT during a sexual experience, but carved out date time outside of a sexual experience. During this date, you will each take turns asking each other open-ended questions about your shared sex life.
If you have difficult time thinking of these, I highly suggest either getting the Eight Dates book or downloading the free Gottman Card Decks app on your phone to go through the open-ended sex questions for a man and woman! What are some of your favorites? What about that time made it your favorite?
Be specific as you can with one another. Giving each other vague responses, will only lead to confusion or assumptions being made β neither of which are great when discussing your shared sexual experience. If you are not sure what your partner means, supportively ask questions to gain more clarity. Lastly, do not compare your partner sexually to other previous partners!
They clearly define that what works for you and your partner, is what is normal! An extensive study of love and sex, completed with 70, participants, found that couples who have a great sex life also page :.
