A lot of people gripe about how horrible dating in Vancouver is. But are eligible candidates really that hard to find? A situationship is a modern term for an intimate connection between two people that eschews traditional labels, commitments, responsibilities, and expectations typically found in conventional relationships. Situationships are by no means a new phenomenon; existing in the undefined, gray area of a relationship has been around for ages.
Still, the singles I interviewed expressed that they preferred committed relationships, acknowledging that casual situationships are fine for a certain stage of life. People desire deeper intimacy—they might just struggle with how to create it. While one person seemed terrified at the idea of being stuck on a mountain with a stranger, some were more optimistic and even preferred doing something active on a first date.
Hikers might be onto something. Research suggests that due to the misattribution of the source of arousal, increased heart rate and adrenaline can enhance perceived attraction towards someone. So, consider taking your next first date for a jaunt up a local mountain. I asked our Vancouver singles what their biggest turn-ons and turn-offs were, and there seemed to be some consensus.
The paramount turn-on was integrity; following through with your promises has become the new aphrodisiac. On the flip side, the most significant turn-offs were a lack of self-awareness, presence, and curiosity or interest during dates. It fosters connection and cultivates compassion. Often, those who rely on interpersonal skills for their work—such as journalists, therapists, and nurses—can naturally employ their abilities to ask questions and listen attentively.
This practice encourages the other person to open up and feel safe enough to share information about themselves. The act of self-disclosure triggers the release of feel-good chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin. Vancouverites are indeed looking for meaningful connections, valuing integrity and commitment in their potential partners.
