They thought they were just having great sex! How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously. Looking back, we were doing things without knowing there were terms for them. We began to notice that I have responsive desire, rather than proactive desire.
For example, at the beginning Frank would check if I wanted to have sex and I told him just go for it, you never need to check with me. Outside sex, for example, Frank takes care of the house finances. We are parents, and while our kids were growing up we had sex, but it was more for survival than excitement.
We now have this new vocabulary and set of tools, so we can channel our sexual energy into more experimentation. I am very powerful and independent in my work life โ hardly anybody says no to me. So the fact that I have somebody who challenges me is brilliant. Being the dom means getting a chance to celebrate and recognise my strength, but in a loving manner.
We met in a club in and just knew that we were going to be together. I also knew the sex I wanted to have, and that some people may have judged for it. I lacked self-confidence and felt as if I was hiding. But, of course, that point of view came from a lack of understanding. We were just having fun. After three years together we had kids, and things calmed down. It almost came as a shock to me. I came to terms with my role as a dom because it was something that the woman I love wanted. If she wants me to dominate her, I will.
It brings her such happiness, and that makes me feel good. The sub has all the power. And for me, being the dom means getting a chance to celebrate and recognise my strength, but in a loving manner. Chiara will do anything for me.
