Dear Dr. Laura: I have been dating my boyfriend for the past year and we were friends for two years prior to that. I would like to know if it would be fair for me to ask him where this relationship is going. I feel we are committed, but of course there is no ring and no date. We are not shacking up. But we are seeing each other intimately. Los Angeles. A — I am always surprised when two people can get naked and assume sexual positions—and later feel shy about talking.
What are your thoughts? I have a friend I am very concerned about. I met her at the beginning of the school year when another of my friends suggested that we introduce ourselves because she was sitting alone at lunch.
For now they are living with his parents. She does not plan on getting a job or going to college because she thinks that her boyfriend will support her. Every day she complains how terrible it is living with his parents.
I am concerned that she has not even thought about their money situation. Right now they are not paying rent, taxes, insurance, or even most of their food—but somehow she thinks that with his unstable and small salary they will be able to get an apartment. A — I am impressed with your maturity and insight. Yes, you should give her the opportunity to face truths—and truths are generally tough to hear and face.
I trust that with your sensitivity you will prevail in getting across to her how decisions made today will have repercussions over a lifetime. My three children ages 15, 12 and 11 have a lot of fun, as it includes swimming and camping with their cousins.
