Sign up. Sign in. Sexual Freedom or Women Oppressing Women? Dykes are already sexual deviants, according to heterocentric ideals. From the earliest feminist theories, men were said to be the problem.
Men were the violent ones. Without men, lesbians often assume that they can live without violence and inequality in their bedrooms. Women would not be objectified. Women would not be fuck-toys, nor would they be slaves with no control over their lives. In lesbian relationships, women would not be subjected to violence; they would not to be raped, beaten, bruised, humiliated, or terrorized.
This message has been something I often remember in my personal life. Outside of the kink scene, I am self-reliant. I try not to depend on others, and I keep to myself. I am a lesbian feminist, yet I am a woman who enjoys being beaten until I have purple and black bruises to remind me of the scene. I consider myself service-oriented, masochistic, and submissive. Ideally, though, a feminist is none of those things.
What does this contradiction do to my identity? Am I still a feminist if I enjoy receiving the same abuse feminist theory accuses men of dealing out throughout history? Am I merely oppressed?
While it is true that BDSM often includes play that involves consensual non-consent, like rape play, all circumstances are agreed upon by all parties in the scene.
