The relative proportions of dominants to submissives, and the splits along the gender lines, are a well debated topic. The methodology was pretty simple. I went to the CollarMe site , randomly looked at profiles with the widest possible selection criteria , and counted the proportions I saw.
It actually started as some random browing over a coffee, but after a few minutes I got curious about what I was seeing, and started a tally chart. Leaving me with a grand total of 1 non-professional female dominant. But I was interested in how accurately it matched my intuition of what the numbers would be. I expected male dominants to be the largest group, submissives to be fairly evenly split along gender lines, and female dominants to be rare.
The contrast of across the gender divide is striking. The growing mainstream visibility of BDSM has led to a burst of kinky novels, guides and memoirs. A particularly active niche within this growing category has been the pro-domme autobiography and how-to guide.
In theory this should have led to a lot of exciting reading. Anyone who has chatted to an experienced pro-domme will know they have many great stories to go along with their technical skills and insight into the complexities of human sexuality. In reality the results have been pretty mixed, with most books being, shall we say, less-than-great. I could even cope with her crass attempts to tie the whole things into the awful 50 shades trilogy.
But some other things are just too annoying to ignore. You might think that a book by a pro-domme would feature some positive thoughts on female domination. Yet no. As far as I can tell both from the book and her interviews it automatically defaults to the conventional submissive female role. The only submissive males are laughable clients in the commercial dungeon. This guide is intended for adventurous, whole and healthy womenβ¦.
