Posted March 24, Reviewed by Abigail Fagan. Totally by coincidence, two different guys called me for therapy this week with similar issues. They each thought their behavior was wrong, and both felt ashamed. Both guys are married. Both guys have high-paying, pressure-filled jobs.
Both guys have trouble talking about sex. I pay them to leave afterwards. Some men pay for handjobs because they want touching. Paid or otherwise, a quality handjob can be quite satisfying. You go from zero to sixty and back to zero in a fairly short time. Without having to give a partner attention , the orgasm can be intense.
Some men like to watch, or touch the other person, which can add to the pleasure. Professionals are generally pretty good at it. A huge number of people struggle with a sense of performance during partner sex, even with something as simple as a handjob.
Do people pay for handjobs because they unconsciously want to get caught? No, I typically see the opposite: people terrified of getting caught, the single most common reason people keeping a secret want to stop.
Since Pedro wanted to stop going to massage parlors, I asked him why he kept going, and why he wanted to stop. He said he was afraid of getting caught, which he was certain would lead to divorce.
