Ok, I am confusedβ¦I thought guys were totally into the text versus actually talking on the phone. But there is one guy who I am interested in who seems to not fit that mold. He takes hours to answer a text message when we all KNOW that our phones are glued to our face.
I told him it bothers me but he keeps doing it! What is the deal? I think I speak for all guys when I say avoid acting needy at all costs. Neediness has repelled me away from more women than I care to disclose. Neediness, at its core, is a mindset. So what specifically is the neediness mindset? No problem there. And the interesting part is that the more we put effort into a relationship with someone, the more invested WE become.
I would encourage you to look for opportunities for the guy to make an effort toward you. This is why being accommodating to bad behavior is actually harmful to creating a bond with the guy in the beginning. I would highly encourage you to read the comments and discussions from different women who have experienced their guy not texting back.
One of the most frequent things I notice is that the women fixate on the guy acting a certain way or doing something they want him to do in this case, texting her back. All that this does is show him that he can treat you like an option while he makes other things a priority. This scenario tends to lead to a relationship downward spiral since the less he puts in effort, the more upset the woman tends to get⦠and as the woman gets more upset, she tends to act more desperate, more paranoid and more guarded.
This is not the energy that attracted the guy in the first place β chances are that when he met you, you were happy, carefree and having fun. Also, if you haven't already, you should definitely take our quiz to find out how "into you" your guy is Click here to take our quick and shockingly accurate "Does He Like Me" Quiz right now and find out how "into you" he really is I think you'll find it really helpful.
