Like with regular dating, if you dive into the sugaring lifestyle without an idea of what you want, you're likely to be disappointed. Do you want a cash allowance, and do you have a set amount in mind? Is it certain bills you want covered? Do you want gifts, shopping, and travel? Having a clear idea of what kind of "sugar," or exchange, you want for the relationship is key. How about the actual dating part — do you like dating older men?
Because sugar daddies tend to be older than the women they date. How much time do you want to spend with your sugar daddy? And does your current lifestyle give you the freedom to do so? If you're considering sugar dating solely for the money, it will be much more stressful, since it'll become a second job. Sugar dating amplifies the faults of regular, or "vanilla," dating.
You may receive messages from, go on first dates with, and be ghosted by far more men than in vanilla dating.
And it's a bad idea to depend on sugar as a primary source of income, because there's never really any guarantee of stability. Additionally, financial desperation makes you vulnerable to malicious men who have no intentions to provide sugar, or it might influence you to date men you otherwise wouldn't consider having a relationship with. It's common practice to adopt a sugar identity separate from your real-life identity.
My online profile uses a very generic name, and I do not disclose my real identity — even after I meet my sugar daddy in person, in some cases. I'm glad I do that, since every sugar daddy I've met has similarly guarded their identity. I suggest creating an alter ego for anyone considering trying any sort of internet fringe dating, especially sugaring.
