At least half of all problems associated with casual sex can be traced back to its name: People think that "casual" means the sex takes no thought and fits as comfortably as sweatpants. But the truth is, you have to date for years before sex gets like that. Monogamy does have a few benefits, after all! In fact, this is one of the reasons why the two of us often refer to casual sex as recreational sex instead -- or rec sex for short. It's a kinder, gentler term, making us think of sex on a picnic blanket -- as opposed to the term casual , which makes us think of people being sloppy-drunk and mean.
Here are ten steps to getting recreational sex right: 1. Be Nice Just because you're never going to see someone again doesn't mean that your manners should fly out the window. Don't Worry So Much About Inner Beauty One of the best things about casual sex is that you can forget all about soul-mates and long-term compatibility and just focus on a pure, chemical connection: You can sleep with someone just because you like their accent, for example.
Or you can sleep with someone who is far too young -- or too old -- for you. And you can enjoy a guilt-free rendezvous with someone who has a surplus of outer beauty but is somewhat lacking in other departments. Be Honest Just because you're doing away with guilt, doesn't mean you should do away with honesty, too. Don't ever lie about your intentions to get someone into bed.
Man up -- or woman up -- and admit you're just looking for a roll in the hay. And never give a fake number or ask for a number you have no intention of calling. Be a Decent Host Or At Least a Polite Guest We don't care how casual the hookup, it's just plain rude to kick someone to the curb at 5 a. Let them sleep over. And make them a decent cup of coffee in the morning. That said, be aware that snuggling for more than 15 minutes may send a mixed message -- but that said, don't be confused if your one-night stand wants to spoon all night.
Some people like a little casual intimacy on the side. If you hate to spoon strangers, then go back to your hook-up's place instead, so you can sneak out at 5 a. And be sure to leave a cheery note; phone number not required. Be Safe Always always always use protection correctly. And know that condoms may not always protect you from everything herpes , HPV Oh, yeah, and don't let a complete stranger tie you up during sex, either!
