According to my parents, I'm on a permanent vacation. This, of course, isn't true. Although I wish it were. Instead, as a freelancer, I find myself over here for a couple months, over there for a few weeks and, thanks to the time difference between New York and the countries I spend my time in, it does feel like I'm on vacation sometimes. What this means for me is my life is an endless array of vacation hookups.
In theory, vacation hookups are the best. I've found, at least in my personal experience, that because I know I'm leaving I'm more likely to be sexually adventurous. I thought maybe I was alone in this until it was confirmed to me by a friend who lives in a very touristy city in Italy: "You wouldn't believe what the women will do in bed when they're only here for a week and don't plan to see you again. In fact, according to a MissTravel survey , most singles have had a one-night stand on vacation at some point.
And, almost 90 percent of singles are more likely to hook up in a foreign destination. While vacation hookups , if you play it right, can be more positive than negative, it doesn't mean they're not without their drawbacks. Here are some things I wish I knew about vacation hookups before I delved into them.
When you have a week or two to hookup with someone, you want to get it all in before you leave. What this means is that it can get intense stat, especially when you're experimenting with things sexually that might be new to you. Before you know it, it will seem like you've had a whole relationship in the matter of a couple weeks. But sometimes intense is a great thing, especially on vacation. The outcome of almost ever vacation hookup I've ever had? Wondering if I'm in love. All I have to do is sleep with someone more than twice in some fantastic city that's not my own, with some wine in my veins and the sparkle of the stars in the sky, and I start planning our lives together, because, ugh, emotions.
While I know the feelings are fleeting, it doesn't stop them from boiling up and spilling over, every damn time. When you're in a different place, with your brain on vacation , you can forget who you are. So many times I've pretended, not on purpose, to be something I'm not with my vacation hookups simply because I'm not living in reality while on vacation. This can be really fun Case in point and true story : "I said I lived in San Francisco for a year? I must have been joking, so no, I can't give your friend recommendations.
