In a church that requires chastity but a world in which random hookups are the norm, what about the plight of single adults who are well past the average Mormon dating age? Or even more difficult, what about those divorced members who are committed to the law of chastity, but also facing the dating scene again?
I was sooooooooooooooooo naive. I actually thought I would find my personal Peter Priesthood on one of those sites. What a joke! I feel compelled to give the following disclaimer.
I am not, nor do I claim to be anything close to perfect. I am no Molly. Prairie skirts and fluffy bangs look horrible on me I knowβI am dating myself.
But seriously, I am a cool chick and I made a commitment before I even started dating at 16 to keep the law of chastity. After my divorce, I committed myself again to following the law of chastity. It wasnt easy. Those feelings and desires just dont go away when you sign the divorce papers. I was married to a non-member, and when I started thinking about dating again, I figured I would date both members and non-members. I was crazy for this guy and he was crazy for me, but he just could not wrap his mind around two adults being in love and not having sex.
It was difficult to explain. I had been sexually active, and now I was just going to stop? Was I insane? A little of both? When I broke up with that guy, I decided that I would date only members. Even if they didnt follow the law of chastity themselves, they would get why I did. I was simply fresh meat and the sharks were circling. This really surprised me. I was so out of their age bracket.
