Skip navigation! Story from Sex. March 16, , PM. Did you know that open relationships never work and casual sex is a lie you whisper to yourself as you try in vain to suppress your pair-bonding instincts? Fisher opines. Romantic love is just like hunger and thirst, because the "parts of the brain" that "orchestrate" them all hang out together!
Please do go on. You and your husband thought you were happy with a longstanding arrangement about which you, by both of your accounts, communicate honestly, lovingly, and consistently, but a woman with some degrees who has never met you is here to show you the error of your ways, because science.
Fisher's body of guidance grew the day after the publication of the NYT article, when Business Insider released a video of her titled "A sex expert reveals something surprising about casual sex" β namely, that it doesn't exist. Specifically, surprise that a PhD is propagating inane generalizations. Fisher stresses in the video.
Five of the 12 cranial nerves become activated when you have sex with somebody. Any stimulation of the genitals will drive up the dopamine system and sometimes put you over the threshold into falling in love, and then of course with orgasm there's a real flood of oxytocin and vasopressin linked with feelings of attachment.
And every time I hug someone, the "flood of oxytocin" I get has me following that person around for the rest of the day. In the informal survey I just conducted, the first three reactions to Dr. Fisher's stance on casual sex were "bullshit," "absolutely not," and "no. If you are comfortable with yourself and your body and your desires and needs and what you want is sex without emotional connection later on, it's possible.
