Things you buy through our links may earn Vox Media a commission. Men explain things to women all the time, but they never seem to tell us what we really want to know: What does a blow job actually feel like? In order to get some answers, I canvassed strangers, friends, and friends of friends.
I grilled men in bars and over the phone and G-chat until I was satisfied with the quality of their description of what is supposedly the most highly savored sexual act. The one thing uniting them all β and often clouding the experience β is a pretty weighty level of anxiety.
Ben, I was shopping with my mother in JCPenney and I discovered a peephole between the stalls. I saw a horny old man beating off, and began to do the same β obviously. Also, getting a BJ makes my teeth hurt for some reason β a literal tingling pain in the molars akin to chewing foil. Every time. There must be a crossed wire in my brain somewhere. Sven, Getting off is related to my thoughts at the time.
Rodger, Growing up, I always heard blow jobs described as the ne plus ultra of sex. I felt ashamed of this, like I had failed in some essential test of my manhood, or even my humanity. I always figured that once I got a blow job from a guy, things would be different.
But when I landed my first boyfriend, to my dismay, I found that it was the same β the blow job would commence, and it would feel good, somewhat, but not good enough to bring me to fruition. Then, one night, a couple weeks into our relationship, something changed. We were both snuggled up in bed, and we eased into messing around. He ducked his head under the blanket and slowly kissed his way down my chest and stomach, and then he took me into his mouth.
