It is a heavy blow to bear, and for many people it spells the end of the relationship or marriage. Recovery is possible. I just wanted to put it out there that there are still choices.
It is natural to assume and to feel that your partner must not love you if they could have done this to you.
And yet, the real answer to this significant question is this:. It is absolutely possible that your partner does love you, did love you before, and will continue to love you in the future. Infidelity does not mean that the love is gone or never existed. The reality is that you can love someone and still cheat on them. In fact, many affairs happen in relationships that are otherwise very happy. There does not need to be some kind of emotional lack or sexual dysfunction for someone to cheat on their partner although certainly those factors can sometimes lead to affairs.
I have worked with many couples where one of the partners cheated and yet it was clear that, apart from intense remorse, they still felt a great deal of love and care for their spouse. Get help now β whether or not your partner is on board! Perhaps you and I have never been part of the mafia. I am not by any means condoning such behavior; I am just laying out that since this is something many normal people do, it is possible for straying partners to do so as well.
Even if your relationship is a happy one, nobody is immune to it. It is normal human functioning to be attracted to other humans, to want to connect to others emotionally and sexually. It takes work and discipline to continually refocus yourself towards your partner. Reconnect with your partner today! When temptation comes around, the natural reaction is to feel the attraction. It is a conscious act that makes us turn away out of commitment to our partner.
