I have heard it over late-night pizza and New South Sunday mornings. Students are starting to think that there is more to blame for their social frustrations than just their game. Our dating system is clearly failing us, and I think it is because Hoyas, both male and female, still believe in two big myths.
This means that a socially acceptable way to spend a Saturday night is to begin drinking with friends, visit some on-campus parties in search of acquaintances or more alcohol and, if the opportunity presents itself and enough beers have been consumed, to have some form of a sexual encounter with someone who is not your significant other or friend. This behavior is even seen by many as the primary motive to go out on the weekend; although, even if a guy or a girl is successful in this mission, more often than not he or she feels rather unsatisfied.
It is important to understand that girls by nature are different from guys when it comes to sexuality, because girls develop a physical as well as an emotional connection, while some guys can easily be satisfied with just the physical aspect of it.
Despite this biological truth, there is a lot of pressure on girls to think that commitment-free sexual encounters are what they should want. Magazines like Cosmopolitan constantly advertise the fearless and fun female whose sexual exploits keep her life exciting. Perhaps it appears this way, but it is important to recognize that a girl wants something different out of the encounter than a guy does.
Just ask her friends. Guys need to accept this and take some responsibility. From the lack of effort guys make to ask girls out on dates, it would seem that most guys truly are only interested in hooking-up and not getting to know the girl.
