Dear Anna, I am a year-old woman. I have come to a place in my life where I am perpetually single. I have physical needs. At this point I am looking for a way to get my physical needs met in a safe way literally and emotionally. What is your advice? An escort service? Casual encounters?
How do I do this and be safe? As with every sexual encounter, nothing is percent safe in terms of STI transmission, pregnancy or odds that the guy will want to show you his wicked skateboard sticker collection. Sex workers probably are safer than an anonymous Craigslist hookup since they tend to be far more vigilant about condoms and other barriers than your average dude. A few online resources exist, such as, if you can get past the terrible name, cowboys4angels.
You might also consider a sex surrogate or browse the back-page ads found in most alt-weeklies. Do you want to [bleep] on the first meeting? Would you prefer to just meet for coffee first?
How comfortable are you with kissing and snuggling, etc. Should you choose the more economical route, there are dozens of hookup sites and apps vying for attention. Meeting a stranger online is just as risky as meeting a stranger offline.
Take precautions when you can, trust your gut and have fun. You deserve it. Want to ask Anna an anonymous question about love, sex or dating? Email your quandary to redeyedating gmail. Need to give your dating life a boost? Sign up for RedEye Dating. Want more? By Anna Pulley.
