He looked distraught, as if his entire world had just crashed around him and there was nothing that he could do about it. Dark circles from sleepless nights marred his usually bright eyes.
And although his enthusiasm about life is always on ten, on this particular night it was barely a one. He looked downright pitiful and it was because he had just found out the woman he thought was falling for him was only using him for sex. From the beginning they were an odd pair. She comes from money and an elite life, while he works hard for everything he has. Though a persons background might not matter to some, it did to her. And after a week of ignoring his calls, she dropped a bomb; she was engaged.
Despite getting it on with my friend for months, she had been dating another man for four years who was everything on paper, except what she needed in the bedroom. Eventually, the woman confessed to him that, despite her engagement, she would still like to continue to see him. While some men may have jumped at the chance to have no-strings-attached sex with a beautiful woman, it left my friend disturbed and with no other choice but to walk away. I tried to find the words to comfort him, but nothing seemed to help.
He was nothing but a boy toy to her and she never had any intention of being in a serious relationship with him. The only thing he seemed to be good enough for was pleasing her, which was a sad reality that hit my dear friend like a sledgehammer. The entire situation made me think about the cheating, and its various double standards. Typically, cheating is associated with men and even the language we use to describe it—jump off, a side-piece, mistress—all relate to men stepping out with other women.
Many times we jump on men for their wrongdoings without ever considering where their shadiness might have started in the first place. I used to laugh at my male friends when they would say they were having a hard time finding a woman to get serious with because of trust issues. Impossible, I would think, they have so many options when it comes to good woman to choose from. The beautiful woman with the fancy title, full bank account, enormous diamond engagement ring and great guy on her arm who seems to have it all—just might…and then some.
