It is that biochemical firehose wash of emotion that takes your breath away and fills you with over-the-top joy, focus, purpose, and herculean energy.
This love has its object s sharply in focus and itself, the source, is happily flung out of view, for a while at least. Eros moves mountains for its object s.
And…you guessed it, there is a downside. It is all just a bit too good to be true because that valiant Eros is also a liar. I am going to quote C. Lewis again because he literally wrote the book on The Four Loves 1 along with others over time.
The dive is exciting, thrilling, and feels amazing while it is happening. The swim, well, not so much sometimes. It is a different kind of thrill, a different kind of feel good. It is one that is subtle and felt over time. If we look to Eros to provide some fuel a long-term romantic relationship, and we call it up now and again, then all will be well at least in this area.
However, if all we ever expect is the electricity of eros, we will eventually sometimes, rather quickly be let down. The monotony of life will catch our attention and we will think all the joy is gone. Some people love eros so much, they end relationships the moment he dims from view.
